It is really common (and tempting) to concentrate on what is lost in a transition. Every time we change, we lose one set of things and gain another. My sense of it is that what we lose and gain probably weigh about the same, but it’s the content and shape that changes.
"Oh you’re vegan…what do you eat!?” Well yes I gave up eating meat, dairy and eggs. Life must suck, right? The fact is I LOVE eating and as I went vegan the foods I gained access to were just as, if not more delightful than what I left behind. I gained the conscience-booster that I wasn’t interacting with factory farms in my food chain. I gained a healthier body.
I recently stopped drinking (for an undecided length of time). “Dude that must blow!” Well it kind of does at around 7PM, to be honest. But let’s talk about the good stuff. I feel much better and happier, in spirit and body. I lost 6 pounds in a week. I now have wonderful mornings, free of the physical and mental implications of drinking too much the night prior. I have an earlier morning, which I love. At night I gained the ability to really feel. As much as that can be a bit painful, it is a real feeling.
These are just two examples, but this stuff comes up all of the time. Could be sugar, gluten, sex, a relationship. We are constantly stopping certain things and starting others. Just try not to dwell on what is lost, because that is a one-way vortex, and it won’t allow you to grow or move on. This is much harder practiced than said, so let’s all learn together.